June 6, 2011
When Peggy Sue Got Married....
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When I turned forty and looked at my mother's life, I often wondered if she regretted her decision back in 1940 to break up with Peter and chose my father. I don't mean that I wondered if she loved my dad, but the decision that she made resulted in many tough life adjustments. It had to have been hard. I think I would have been looking over my shoulder going...hmmm.
It is also fair to say that I have had to make tough choices in my life and the BIG one about divorcing my first husband, and father of my only child, was right up there at the top of the list. I berated myself for choosing him in the first place. I should have been smarter, should have taken more time to know him, etc.
In 1986 I went to see the movie When Peggy Sue Got Married that starred, among many others on the rise, Kathleen Turner and Nicolas Cage. I was already a huge Kathleen fan and assumed I was going to see a lighthearted film that would just be fun. WHOA. This light-hearted plot got heavy and emotional, a reminder why Peggy Sue made the decision she did (LOVE) and the GOOD that came out of it. In this case, Peggy Sue got a daughter that she loved/loves...and that daughter would not be the same if she had a married a different guy.
It's weird that this film impacted me so much but I have seen it many times since and it always has the same effect. My mother never saw the film but she once said that if she had married Peter, instead of my dad, that she wouldn't have us. (of course she would have had other children that she would have loved, I'm sure but I didn't go there)
I have learned a lot from my mother about accepting the good that comes from my decisions and tried to NOT be the kind that looks over her shoulder about how things could be different and better. A change in attitude has certainly made the road much easier to travel.
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Posted by Nancy Rossman
on June 6, 2011 at 9:11 AM
in Regret |
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